The difference between loving and indebtedly to a child・・・

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The Difference Between Gratitude and Love

Do you have affection for your children? Or are you being indebted?

Affection for children means that no matter what happens to a parent unilaterally from their feelings for their child,
I think it’s a feeling I have for my children.

So, in a way, I put full trust in my child and give him a sense of security.

And most importantly, to give the child a place to belong,
It’s a sense of self-affirmation that it’s okay to be here, it’s okay to exist.
Thinking that it is important to give things to children.

On the other hand, a favor is, for example, when a parent raises a child, the parent’s love for the parent’s
Rather than one-sided feelings and actions toward children,
It is for the parent itself to expect the child to be in return for his or her actions toward the child.

Because of this, it is not one-sided towards the child, so the parent is likely to have something in return.
It’s not the child’s expectations, but the parent’s reward is much less or less to the child who was influenced by the parent’s emotions
I think I’m going to end up giving it affection.

As a result, the child receives the reward of the parent’s expectations.
If they can’t do it, the parents will not be satisfied, they will be dissatisfied, and the child who sees the behavior will
For me, I disappointed my parents’ expectations, I was a bad kid, and the result was a decrease in self-esteem.
I think it will be.

So, parents should understand the difference between love and indebtedness to their children, engage in parenting happily, and engage in child-rearing
When you do your best to show affection, it becomes fertilizer, and the time comes when the child himself feels indebted, and he receives it from his parents.
The child may or may not be able to deliver more than the affection he owes to his parents.
Not. Let’s believe in that potential and make parenting fun.

 

 

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